Last night I was talking to a friend of mine, and it got me thinking.

I don’t have many friends, I have no one that I can call up on a random day I’m not busy and see if they want to go out for lunch or for a drink, coffee, tea or things like that.

I am 33 years old, and I don’t have many friends. The ones I do have I love them to death, but they all live far away from me, so I don’t get to see them often.

The other thing that I realised is that I have no male friends, which in itself is weird.

So how the hell do you go about making friends as an adult?

When you are a kid it’s easy:

Kid 1: “I like grapes!”

Kid 2: “I like grapes too!”

Kid 1: “Let’s be best friends.”

Why is it not that easy now?

I genuinely have no idea how to go about it anymore.

Any suggestions?


not sure this will work


28 Comments Add yours

  1. Cyranny says:

    Hey! I like grapes!!

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    1. Do you mean grapes or wine?

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        1. So you like grapes, I like grapes. Let’s be best friends

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            1. Is that a drunk “lol”

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            2. Cyranny says:

              No… sorry, just a habit from back in the dayz when emoticons didn’t exist…. It is a a little me with her arms in the air… meaning “yay!”

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            3. Ah yes I remember now I was confused as on the app it split it over 2 lines

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  2. rugby843 says:

    Just as easy as that! Unless of course you’re in the cantaloupe section admitting melons and approach a female. Otherwise, grapes? Fine!😉

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    1. Ah no the melons are for picking up women.


  3. rugby843 says:

    Well I guess if it’s male friends you want, you could go to the auto dept. and say something like….”man those are great hubcaps!” 😂😂

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    1. Don’t really have those here and I know feck all about cars

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      1. rugby843 says:

        Oh well, hmmm, local rugby game? Soccer? It never hurts to just say hello when you’re sitting next to someone, or perhaps when you take a stroll in the park with the baby? Maybe the other person feels the same, you won’t know until you take the first step. Whatever, good luck.


      2. rugby843 says: Thought you might enjoy Suze’s humor since you wanted to talk……


  4. oneistheall says:

    Steal your acquainteds friends!
    Work friends may also work, but then you may have to change jobs to not get fed up of seeing your friends all day.


  5. Samantha says:

    I don’t often make friends do my friends are numbered too. I would say as adults it’s better to find common ground and to understand the differences in personalities. I used to like nerdy friends cause mostly we were introverted but I opened up and got out of my comfort zone and I have been clubbing, going to cinemas almost everyday with different friends everyday. From what I can tell you are a great person and I think you can make friends. You just have to step a little bit out of your comfort zone 😊


  6. kaffe325 says:

    Do you have children? Two of my dearest friends were made when I was in my late 20’s – early 30’s through our children. Perhaps you might consider joining a class, group, or club of some sort? You’re sure to meet like – minded individuals in a class, group, or club that you all voluntarily enrolled in. Good Luck and keep us posted!

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    1. That’s not a bad idea. I have a daughter she’s only 7 months old so she’s a bit wee for classes and things just now but I like that idea

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      1. kaffe325 says:

        I had my son enrolled in Gymboree and age appropriate classes at the YMCA when he was that age. Go for it!

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        1. Not a bad shout I’ll look into that. Thanks ☺️

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  7. HisLordship says:

    I moved from London to Scotland 14 years ago and left all my long term friends behind. As you say, the people that might call for a beer or pop for a coffee just because they were passing. In the main they were all part of a group bound by an activity, however, I did have friends that were connected by our children. As kaffe325 said, other parents do become friends once children start education and often it’s husbands of you wife’s friends.
    My life in Scotland never produced ‘mates’ to socialise with. Mon-Fri I was the boss with no peer group and weekends were spent with my family. As the years have gone by I have met people I know through dinner parties but in the main they are wife’s friends and the husbands not my choice.
    I have on-line friends with whom I can discuss our kinky lifestyle and that is supportive to. We have even travelled to have dinner with them and they have visited us.
    Am I missing something by not having close local friends? Probably yes, however, my best male friend is a FaceTime away and my best female friend is lying next to me. I don’t want for much!


  8. Great post! I feel your pain. I joined a neighborhood book club that meets every month. I try and stay in contact with former co-workers. I do wish others would make more of an effort. Good luck!

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    1. That’s not bad idea about the book club I may look into that

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      1. I really enjoy mine. We talk about the book for about 15 minutes, then socialize. At our last meeting, our conversation devolved into what five celebrities we would like to have sex with! It’s a diverse group from all walks of life.

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  9. I have no answers for you as I am in the same boat. My best friend is gone literally half the time at work, my other friend, same exact thing. (Here in Alaska some people work up north on the “Slope” working in the oil industry. Their shifts are either two weeks on and two weeks off OR three weeks on three weeks off. Makes it hard for friend stuff.)
    So, I have no solutions but I CAN commiserate.

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    1. It kind of sucks. Doesn’t it?

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