Don’t you f*cking dare… [Angry Rant]



I am currently filled with boiling rage, I was talking to some friends not long ago, and I mentioned that I didn’t get to bed last night until 3.50am because the little one was up half the night.

She had been down for a while and woke up wanting a bottle, and she’s been teething, her back teeth are coming in. Now anyone (who apparently isn’t me, because mine came in with no problem at all) who have had their wisdom teeth coming in knows just how painful that can be.

Now imagine what that must be like to be one year old, not having any idea what’s going on or why you suddenly have stabbing pain in your mouth.

Now that is going to cause a few sleepless nights.

So queue these people telling me that I have to get her into a proper sleeping routine and that if she is screaming at the top of her lungs in the middle of the night just to ignore her.

Yeah, that’s not going to happen. I am not going to leave my daughter to scream when picking her up and holding her will stop her crying.

Now it may not surprise you to know that neither of them are parents, they haven’t gone through this, they don’t know how hard it is to hear your child in pain, and even the thought of leaving them to suffer can cut into your heart.

Now all of that I can ignore and brush off, they don’t have a clue what they are talking about so I can let that slide, I can stifle my annoyance.

What I can’t let go is the suggestion that because I’m tired that I am going to hurt my daughter.

They said that I am overtired (which, at the moment, I am not) and made the suggestion in the form of a “What If” (which is the same fucking thing as suggesting that I’ll do it) that I will end up doing something to hurt my child.

Anyone who knows anything about me knows that that is nowhere in me. There is no way on this earth, in this reality, in any way shape or form could I ever do that, and even the suggestion of it has filled me with rage.

It feels like they have taken a red-hot knife and plunged it into my heart to my very core.

This is crossing the line so badly that I found myself shaking with rage, and then they tried to justify what they said and that I was overreacting.

I don’t care what you think, you suggest in any way that I am going to hurt my daughter I’m going to get angry, and I am not overreacting.

That is crossing the line.

Never, NEVER, suggest to anyone who has kids that they will hurt them.

And do not tell them that they are overreacting when they get angry at you for suggesting it.

8 thoughts on “Don’t you f*cking dare… [Angry Rant]

  1. Suze says:

    Frankly, I am gobsmacked that you still call them “friend” after they implied that! Poor baby..and NO, a parent should NEVER just let their child cry! What absolute fricking morons! The child will cry for a flippin REASON (yes, I KNOW you KNOW that, I am incredibly angry on your behalf!) Okay, stopping now for some alone time. I am so sorry that you know such STUPID people! grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

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    1. Colin says:

      Thank you your rage is appreciated it was pretty much how I felt. I tried leaving her to see if she’d go back to sleep. It doesn’t work and I can’t bare the sound. Also any parent can tell the difference between a cry when they will go back to sleep and a cry when they won’t.


  2. kirascribbled says:

    People without kids should be banned on giving advice on babies.
    Some babies cry themselves to sleep just fine and some wont ever ever ever give up, like my daughter as a baby. I still have to rub her back till she falls asleep sometimes. Lol
    They are all different.
    You do whatever feels right to you! You know by now when she’s in need, pain, or just crying to cry.
    Sleep is for the weak!
    My only suggestion to get her back to sleep quickly is to keep the room low lighted, and dont look her in the eyes. It actually wakes them up because when they look in your eyes it means you want to interact with them.
    Ps. You’re an awesome dad!

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    1. Colin says:

      The low light thing doesn’t work for her sadly once she’s up she’s up. But I don’t mind getting up with her (most of the time) she’s a little nightmare but she slept all night last night apart from wanting her dummy.
      So that’s good.
      But I couldn’t agree more people without kids should in no way give parenting advice, that can ask questions but don’t dare try to tell me how to raise her.
      Its differnt from people who have been through it. That’s coming from experience

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  3. cariboucrossingsak says:

    OMFG ! gggrrrr!!! I’m angry too! You are a wonderful dad. And teething (along with growth spurts) is difficult. You just hold her and comfort her even if you’re about to pass out from exhaustion. What you’re teaching her is that her dad will always love and support her, even when she’s in pain. If you want advice from me (you know my daughter’s personality) you just ask, my friend. ))hugs((

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    1. Colin says:

      I’ve done that many times. Where she’s just wanting held so I’ve held her and fell asleep on the couch with her hugging into me. It has to be done.
      Thank you for your rage it’s appreciated as is saying I’m a great dad ☺️

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